I’m super excited to write this sponsored post on behalf of Dove™. All opinions are my own.
My 7 year old daughter and I share a love for all things hair & makeup. She’s sassy & sweet, athletic, a fierce lover of her family and I love her as much as I love her big brother. Being their mami is a joy.
But as all #girlmoms know, there are times that you want to yank out your hair over arguments and squabbles. And don’t even get me started on the Epic Battle on Tangled Hair Hill that rages many nights in our humble home.
(Am I the only mom who has let her daughter go to bed with tangled wet hair because they just didn’t want to fight??? Please let me know in the comments below — us moms need reminders that we’re not the only ones! LOL!)
Thankfully, I have some helpful tips that are helping our mami/daughter hair relationship improve, and I’m excited to share them with you here!
Easy ways to untangle hair without fights, tears and tantrums!
- Ask your stylist (or hair-obsessed friends!)
- My uber-talented hairstylist friend Christina Mercier Luton cut my daughter’s hair while we waited for my hair color to process at the salon. She has been a literal life-saver with two tips: she shared her favorite detangling spray and a reminder to untangle from ends to roots (not the other way around, which was what I was doing! Christina’s way is much better!)
- Let Abuela (grandma) do it!
- My mother-in-law brought her beloved granddaughter a bunch of cute things from Puerto Rico, including a detangling hair lotion. During the few weeks she was with us over the summer, she enjoyed untangling her grandbaby’s hair … and I enjoyed a break, letting abuela take over for a little bit!
- Teach a girl to fish(braid)…
- You may have heard the saying: “give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime.” This is the tangled hair version: Teach a girl to fish (I mean, untangle, style, braid, etc …) her own hair, and she’ll be set for life!
As a mom, that’s one of the most important things we can do for our children: teach them to be independent. And in helping my baby girl learn just how much detangling lotion or spray to use, how to distribute it and finger comb her hair; how to use a wide-tooth comb on wet hair, and how to be gentle on knots, untangling from the ends up to the roots, my precious daughter will be able to grow up confident that she can take care of herself, “untangle” problems, find solutions and feel beautiful at the end of the day because she did it all by herself.
I really appreciate that Dove™ Hair wants to encourage and empower more of us moms to teach and lead our daughters with confidence, on such a personal level as dealing with our hair (which can too often be a source of pride or prejudice!)
The GREAT news is we can turn hair fights into “love your hair” moments — both from the perspective of looking in the mirror and loving what we see, and from a problem-solving, life application perspective as well. It’s an amazing experience when you can turn frustration with knots and tangles into “Hey! We can fix this together”
LOOK! Mami! My hair is so soft tonight!
This literally happened the other night! My daughter and I both were pretty impressed with how easy it was to untangle her hair one night — we were not in a rush, she did half of it and I just went around, combing through, celebrating her job well done!
I loved that moment so much, I’m going to add one more bullet point to the list of “Easy Ways to Untangle Hair without Fights, Tears & Tantrums”:
- Focus on the positives
- That other night I mentioned above is #goals. I want to aim at that every night — instead of yanking wet hair with a comb, mad because it’s not untangling fast enough and ain’t nobody got time for that, I want our daughter and I beaming at each other, and admiring each other in the mirror because our hair is untangled without a fight, it’s soft and silky, and we can end the night with love and affirmation.
Baby, your hair looks so pretty! You did a GREAT job untangling it tonight.
Mami, your hair looks really pretty, too.
I want to encourage you to have more of these #LoveYourHair moments. These simple moments can teach us to love ourselves.
It could be with your daughter or granddaughter; a younger sister, niece or younger cousin; or the girl you’re tutoring after school. Let’s take the opportunities we have to brush, style or untangle hair to build our girls up with admiration, empowerment and love.
You can check out this really cool Dove™ Hair website to personalize your photo with your girl & share it on social media! Here’s mine (I love it!)
It’s crazy to think that, as little girls, we can look at our hair and ourselves so negatively. I have straight hair, but always thought curly was so much more fun! I felt “blah”, like my hair was “stringy”, “flat” or “lifeless.”
What a difference if we could change those adjectives for little girls growing up today, so they can see that silky, soft hair as healthy, shiny, vibrant!
As moms, grandmas, role models, we can make a HUGE difference in the girls around us, when they see us using these positive, beautiful terms on ourselves and pouring them out on them as well.
When was the last time you told your daughter how beautiful she is and how stunning her hair looks?
Let me encourage you to do it today! You can even have fun and create your very own custom #LoveYourHair animated message with @Dove! It’s so fun!!! And then you can share it on social media, too! Just click on this link!
Laughing (and loving my daughter’s and my hair) thru life,
I enjoyed writing this sponsored post on behalf of Dove™. All opinions are my own.
Such a beautiful post! I feel like it’s so important to instill self-love in our children while they are young and to also be aware of how we talk about ourselves in front of our kids. I won’t lie…having a little girl and dealing with her hair is going to be so tough for me. I’m so not a girly girl when it comes to hair so it will be interesting. LOL.
Thank you, Amber! And I can relate! Haha! I’m not “super girly” either, but my daughter has brought more glitter, sparkle and fun into my life! I’m sure you’ll love it, too!
Great tips! I deal with tangles with my 3 year old daughter and its not fun.
Thanks, Nicole! I lost track of how many times we were both pretty much in tears over tangles! Thank God for these tips & how they’ve helped!
This post makes me want a baby girl. Haha. I love any hair product that makes my hair silky smooth! And yes to detangling from the ends first! I learned that early on and it was a life saver!
Awww!!! I hope you have a girl someday! And yes, that is definitely a life saver!
Great guide. And hair!
Love Dove products! We have been using dove in our house for years and years!
Love Dove products for my hair, I also use a special brush to help with detangling hair.
And my daughter keeps wanting to buy one of those special brushes. Might have to check em out! 🙂
I wish I had this when I was little. My hair was sooooo tangled growing up!
Awwww!!!! I’m thankful we have so many options now! 🙂
I love your tips, I made sure my daughter could do it on her own as well! It’s so important!! And OMG that first pic of you two is just the sweetest thing ever!!! #Loveyourhair
Haha! Thx Marisa! 🙂
Great tips! My sister has terrible knots in her hair – it gets so frustrating to deal with sometimes!
Thanks, Rachel! I can totally relate!
Love this! I have crazy curly hair and I love it. I actually use kid’s detangler everyday because it works so much better than the regular kind.
Brittany, I agree! And it smells really nice, too!
Love this! Yes, so important to teach our girls to love their hair and themselves the way they are!
I agree! I remember feeling so insecure as a little girl (especially in middle school!) It’s great that we have these sweet opportunities to share cute selfies and build our daughters up with love & affirmation!